Hugs
This is my 200th entry on this blog. Exciting.
Tonight, I was told that people assumed I would not like to be hugged, so let me quickly address that here on my blog, the official source of all things Wysz. I like hugs. They feel good. My grandfather wrote a poem about hugs, but unfortunately I don’t have a copy of it with me to share. I do not mind being hugged.
I think that there are two things that may have caused people to assume that I do not like hugs:
- I tend not to initiate hugs, since I don’t want to risk hugging someone who does not want to be hugged.
- I’ve probably mentioned that I think some people hug too soon/often.
The first thing I can’t do much about. It’s just the way I am, overly cautious. But as for the second one, allow me to explain myself. Some people are overly huggy. It’s not that they hug certain people too much; it’s that they hug too many people too soon. I’ll illustrate with a few examples as guidelines for how I feel, but keep in mind that these are not explicit rules. An overly huggy person may hug in any of these situations. I’ll let you know for which ones I would feel comfortable with a hug:
Meeting someone for the first time.
I would prefer not to.
Greeting a friend who I haven’t seen in a while
Bring it on.
Greeting a non-friend acquaintance (coworker, teacher, store clerk, friend of friend, friend of parent, etc.)
I’d really rather not. But this rule no longer applies if I consider the person to be a friend.
Saying goodbye to a friend who I won’t see for a while
Let’s hug it out.
Anytime with a really good friend or family member
Sounds good to me.
agreed… is 4 weeks a long time?
Comment by nelson — July 22, 2008 @ 8:59 pm
Yes. Feel free to schedule me for a hug on August 6th.
Comment by Wysz — July 22, 2008 @ 9:04 pm
Nelson: Whoops, was just informed that you don’t hug guys. That’s cool. I tend not to hug guy friends either.
Comment by Wysz — July 22, 2008 @ 9:08 pm
+1 for hugs
Comment by Koko — July 22, 2008 @ 9:08 pm
is 1 week a long time?
Comment by Koko — July 22, 2008 @ 9:10 pm
one week is like forever
Comment by nelson — July 22, 2008 @ 9:12 pm
I would say that if it is long relative to your normal time apart (for example if you normally see each other daily), then yes one week can be considered a long enough time for a hug. You missed your chance tonight but if you want one when you get back that’s cool.
Comment by Wysz — July 22, 2008 @ 9:13 pm
omg
Comment by Beah — July 23, 2008 @ 9:04 am
+1 to beah’s comment
Comment by Reid — July 25, 2008 @ 12:04 am
Is OMG referring to the post or one of the comments?
Comment by Wysz — July 25, 2008 @ 12:22 am
a scene indeed
Comment by char — July 25, 2008 @ 12:59 pm