Month: July 2008

Submitted via the Personal Wyszdom request:

Wysz, is there anything that you need advice on from your dedicated readers?

Awwwwwwwww, you guys……

Nah, I’m good. I have the Internet. World’s information at my fingertips. Thanks for the offer.

Submitted via the Personal Wyszdom request:

Money woes

The economy doesn’t seem to be doing so hot, gas prices are rising, and banks are doing poorly.  What are some ways to save money? How can I take a girl out on a date that’s practically free, without looking cheap?

When it comes to general money-saving advice, I keep like to keep it simple: don’t go into debt. How do you avoid debt? Don’t buy stuff that you cannot afford. Here’s an instructional video:

And that “savings” thing they talk about in Chapter 3? Here’s how I handle it. I keep the money that I need in a checking account. This is where I get the money to pay my rent, credit card balance, and other bills. My paycheck gets deposited into this account. When I have more money than I need in my checking account, I move the stuff that I don’t need into the savings account. I never take money out of the savings account, because I’m saving it.

Now, onto relationship advice. First of all, if you’re dating a girl you should try to splurge once in a while. It’ll be fun for both of you, and what better things could you spend your money on? But of course that’s not something you can do all the time, so looking for more affordable activities is certainly reasonable. The specific venue for your date is a matter of personal preference, so I’ll just list a few ideas to show you that not every date has to involve buying a meal or a ticket. In fact, I prefer a movie night on the couch over eating in a restaurant with potentially terrifying food and confusing tipping practices.

Here are some possibilities to get you started, but I encourage you to be creative and build off of these for even better experiences:

• Rent a movie or pick out an old favorite from your DVD collection and just hang out at your place or hers with some microwave popcorn. It’s simple and nothing new, but who doesn’t like it? Bonus points if you cook her dinner before the movie, if you don’t suck at cooking.
• Find a nice isolated place with limited or no light pollution and watch the stars. Reid has noted that the Perseid meteor shower peaks in August!
• Picnic
• Sneak over to where she’s babysitting and hang out with her after the kids have gone to bed. Just make sure you sneak back out before the parents get back early because they forgot the tickets for the show after dinner. <- DO NOT DO THIS! Haven’t you ever seen a sitcom?

Have more ideas for a cheap date? (Oh, yeah, make sure you avoid the phrase “cheap date.”) Leave a comment below.

Submitted via the Personal Wyszdom request:

Why does Reid ask so many questions?

He’s weird. Did you want some advice?

Submitted via the Personal Wyszdom request:

Wysz’s Body

Wysz, how do you keep your body so slim and trim? Do you have “trouble areas” and if so, how do you deal with them?

I don’t like a lot of foods, and I almost always sleep through breakfast. I stick to a strict diet of spaghetti, potstickers, In-n-Out, pizza, and Oreos. My figure also probably has something to do with genetics or math or some other science that I’m not good at. I don’t have any “trouble areas” that I’m aware of.

Submitted via the Personal Wyszdom request:

Superhero fight
From: Sasidhar

I know it’s an age old question, but I wanted the Wysz answer. Who would win a fight between Batman and Superman?

We’ve really gotten off track with these questions recently; I don’t see how this is a request for advice. I’ll answer it anyway though, because I’m a nice guy.

When it comes to a fight between Batman and Superman, I disagree with the premise of the question. Batman and Superman would not fight each other. They would cooperate and fight whoever tried to make them fight in the first place. So that leaves me with two pieces of advice for you:

1. Don’t make Batman and Superman fight.
2. Don’t bring this up on a date.

Submitted via the Personal Wyszdom request:

How white is Wysz?
From: Reid

I’m sure you’ve read the blog “Stuff White People Like.” I definitely think of you as the epitome of Whiteness: Standing still at concerts (#67), Grammar (#99), Bad Memories of High School (#83), Apple Products (#40), Wine (#24), and definitely Asian Girls (#11).

But, one thing about Whiteness, at least according to Lander, is a fair amount of political liberalism: Barack Obama (#8), Knowing What’s Best for Poor People (#62), Gentrification (#73), Free Healthcare (#93), and Hating Corporations (#82).

Having read your blog, you appear to deliberately exclude yourself from politics:

http://www.thewysz.com/hotw/iblog/C712427414/E20061119234808/;
http://www.thewysz.com/hotw/iblog/C1020803948/E47223902/;
http://www.thewysz.com/wyszdom/2008/06/music/;
http://www.thewysz.com/wyszdom/2008/06/gift-cards-and-politicians/

Why the disassociation? Or do you feel that political liberalism is not a mutually exclusive component of Whiteness? Would you at the very least agree that being informed about politics or current events might be helpful for dating?

Wow, you actually mentioned dating in this one. So I guess that makes it count as a solicitation for advice.

I believe I’ve already mentioned as comment on your blog that I do not like everything that the people Lander writes about do. For example, white people in Lander’s blog like to live in San Francisco. I do not. They also like bumper stickers. I do not. Political people like bumper stickers.

Answering your questions in order:

Why the dissociation?
I exclude myself from talking about politics, not from participation or awareness. I still vote, but I don’t tell anyone who I voted for. I also research the candidates, but I don’t promote or attack them. Why? Because it’s just not worth it.

It’s not worth it personally, because telling someone your political beliefs has a much stronger potential to hurt you than it does to help you. Let’s set a person’s impression of you as a baseline. If you then tell this person that you agree with him or her politically, he or she may have a slightly more positive impression of you, but it is also likely that he or she has always assumed that you, a reasonable person, shared his or her views, and therefore sees you as exactly the same as before. However, if you tell this person that you do not agree with him or her, there is a very high probability that this will cause he or she to look at you more negatively, and question everything about his or her previous impression of you.

It’s not worth it politically, because people do not change their minds often when it comes to politics. So if you share your views, you will only be preaching to the choir.

I also want to limit my participation in a system that has become such a huge mess. Why is it such a big fight? This isn’t sports. Aren’t we all, in the end, on the same team? Why can’t the candidate with the second highest number of votes be vice president, or the appropriate equivalent for other offices? Nearly every politician uses forms of annoying marketing that I do not want to support. And the whole party system is stupid. I’d rather vote for a single person who has political beliefs similar to mine, and not vote for a set group of beliefs, especially if I only have two options to choose from. Just because I agree with a party on one issue doesn’t mean that I should have to also feel a certain way about multiple unrelated issues. I see differences between individual candidates, but honestly, I do not see a difference between Democrats and Republicans. They’re all politicians.

Do you feel that political liberalism is not a mutually exclusive component of Whiteness?
I don’t believe the two are mutually exclusive or inclusive. Lander probably believes they’re mutually inclusive.

Would you at the very least agree that being informed about politics or current events might be helpful for dating?
Politics: I would not date someone who wants to talk about politics.
Current Events: I typically don’t like to talk about these either, unless it’s about technology.

So, no. At least not for me.

Submitted via the Personal Wyszdom request:

From: Reid

Why haven’t you seen Get Smart yet?  Since you’re such a big fan of The Office (US version), I would have assumed you would have seen it on opening night.

Again, Reid, do you understand what the Personal Wyszdom form is for? You’re supposed to ask for advice, not about my movie-watching habits. But here we go:

I just haven’t gotten around to it. I’m a busy guy. I haven’t seen a lot of Steve’s recent movies including Dan in Real Life and Evan Almighty. I do think he’s a good actor, but I don’t need to see all of his films immediately. Do you want to see it sometime this week? If so, let me know via email or something, not through the advice form.

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Before the Internet
From: Reid

What did you do before you got on the Internet?

I believe I was in fifth grade when we first got AOL, and the “real Internet” came within about a year. Before that, I built things. I built with K’NEX, LEGOs, Capsela, wooden blocks… anything. Except for Erector Sets. Those things were confusing. I also liked to build/launch model rockets and even worked on the treehouse in the backyard. Now I only get to build things when I move, and it’s all from IKEA.

Wait, did you need advice about something? Save those hex wrenches.

Submitted via the Personal Wyszdom request:

Clothing
From: Riona

Dear Wysz
Capris on men: Yes or no?

If he’s European or hiking through a stream: Fine.
If he’s not: No.

Submitted via the Personal Wyszdom request:

What are some good movies to watch with girls? Do you know of any smooth moves that can help “set the mood”?

The first thing you should do is try to figure out which types of movies the girl likes. You want her to have a good time, right?

Comedies are tough unless you really know her sense of humor. If you go to a movie like Superbad and she hates it while you’re laughing the whole time, she may not think that highly of you. But if you want to go comedy, stay mainstream. Think Will Ferrell, Steve Carell, or other actors with confusing combinations of ‘R’ and ‘L’ in their last names which make them difficult to spell. Try to get as close to the romantic comedy genre as you can (see below), with films like Meet the Parents.

Scary movies are good only if she likes them. If you take her to a scary movie and she doesn’t like them, then you’re just a jerk. If she like them and you don’t, go anyway, since she may find it cute when you’re scared. Plus she might grab your arm or turn towards you if she gets scared, which is kind of cool.

Romantic comedies, AKA “chick flicks,” are pretty standard date movies, so go to one of these if you want to play it safe. These are date movies for good reasons, so don’t feel bad about going to them. A few advantages:

1. If they include actors like Hugh Grant, Richard Gere, or Julia Roberts, the audience will much likely be older and therefore not annoying like certain groups of teenagers you’ll find at other movies.
2. At the end of the movie, you’ll both be thinking about relationships and have an excuse to talk about them.
3. If you find yourself at a loss for words later that night, just quote the movie and it will likely sound romantic.
4. You can go to a romantic comedy and not feel embarrassed about it.

Action movies are kind of bleh for dates, and better suited for group outings since they tend to be big blockbuster-type movies that anyone is okay with seeing. Unless she suggests one, you can probably skip it.

Star Trek movies are good only if you met at a Star Trek convention. Otherwise, sneak out and see the new one while she’s out of town or you’re supposed to be at work. May 2009!

As for the moves, let’s start with what you shouldn’t do. Don’t do the stretch, which ends with your arm around her. It’s so corny that it goes past the point where it’s funny. The stretch is illustrated below:

Photo by Koklynn Yip

Your best bet is probably to keep your hands to yourself and wait for her lead. If you do something she doesn’t like, you risk having to sit awkwardly through the remainder of the movie.

Unfortunately, I don’t really have any moves to share with you. Like pickup lines, “moves” are small tactics that are unlikely to help you much in the long run. However, there is one move that can be used before the start of a relationship. I use it all the time, and it’s a simple ear wiggle. You see, when a girl sees a guy wiggling his ears, one of her first thoughts will be, “I bet he’s single.” This talent is therefore a great way to signal your guaranteed availability.