Cat person

I like dogs, but I’m a cat person.

Sometimes when you learn the meaning of a term, it can be very disappointing. I remember when I was a kid, we were going to meet one of my mom’s friends, and she described him as a “cat person.” We got there, and I was like, wait, so you just like cats? Dude, that’s a cat-liker. A cat person’s a different story. Why does Steven never go in the pool? Oh, he’s a cat person.
– Demetri Martin

Here’s a broad generalization: Dogs prioritize food and fun. Cats prioritize comfort. They seem to be on a constant mission to be as comfortable as possible. What’s the best blanket to sit on? Which surfaces retain the most heat in the winter, and are coolest in the summer? In which location are people most likely to leave you alone?

I can totally understand that. I like comfortable clothes. I pay for extra legroom. I stopped going to a dry cleaner because they asked me a confusing question (“Do you want these to be dry cleaned?”) once. I like to do things that I know I’m good at. I try to optimize my life to be as comfortable as possible.


I seek comfort. Others seek discomfort. I think it’s just a personality difference, and it’s on a spectrum, just like how some people are more introverted and others are more extroverted. They have different defaults.

I know people who will say things like “I like to push myself” and “I want to go outside of my comfort zone.” My gut reaction? Why would you want to be uncomfortable?! :) I can totally understand what they mean, but I also know that it’s not my personal preference.

Some seem to have an obsession with discomfort. Some even like to see others get uncomfortable. Some like to see me get uncomfortable. Wysz doesn’t like weird foods? Let’s see what we can make him try! He looks comfortable sitting at the table at a wedding? Invite him to the dance floor. He says he doesn’t want to dance? Drag him. He’s never had a massage? TOUCH HIM!

I wrote this on my couch, which is used only by me but has three blankets.

Movies

I watch a lot of content online, but it tends to be podcasts and TV shows rather than traditional movies. It’s so easy to watch a series, and picking a movie can be a bit of work. Recently, while watching a movie and remembering how much I enjoy the experience, (I think it was Good Morning, Vietnam), I decided that I should watch more movies. I took the stress out of it by reminding myself that I like almost any movie, so I could just pick anything. Now, I’ll look for a movie title anywhere, whether it’s from a recommendation system, searching for an actor, or remembering a VHS cover that I saw on the shelves of Blockbuster as a kid. Once I’ve found the title, I try to watch the movie without learning anything more about it. I don’t watch the trailer, I don’t read reviews, and I don’t even look at the genre. It’s so fun to start watching the movie having no idea what to expect. I’ll start watching and not know if it’s going to be a drama, or if the characters will end up going to space or back in time.

A couple of weeks ago, I was listening to music, and I really liked one of the songs. I looked to see what was playing, and it was the soundtrack for Moon. I didn’t recognize the movie, but I decided to watch it that Friday based on the soundtrack alone. It was a pretty cool movie, and I’m glad I didn’t know anything about it beforehand, because I think that made the story more interesting and helped to prevent me from guessing what was going to happen next. I later had a vague memory of seeing the trailer when it had come out, but I didn’t realize that until after watching the movie.

What should I watch next?

Customer support matters

People love to complain about customer service. It seems like a (dated) cliché to do it on a blog and I dislike spending my time and energy on something negative (even if it’s constructive), but I’m going to do it anyway so here we go.

Customer support can save a relationship even after something has gone wrong. I notice when it’s done really well. Last December, Amazon gave me a full refund on a $200+ item (that they let me keep, even though I didn’t ask them for this) because it arrived late, even though I’m pretty sure it was the carrier’s fault. I don’t hesitate to trust Amazon when I buy something online (when trust is very important considering the lack of a physical interaction) because I know that if something goes wrong, Amazon will make it right. One aspect of doing business today that I love is that customers are generally well-informed, so businesses have to compete on merit, whether it’s based on price, availability, ethics, quality, or something else. I think that over time, this should lead to companies striving to offer the best possible customer service.

I’ve been a longtime fan of Uber. Whether it’s provided by Uber or someone else (even a traditional taxi company), I want an Uber-like product (or, preferably, multiple Uber-like products) to exist. That means high reliability, high availability, comfortable, cash-free and tip-free, on-demand smartphone-powered transportation where low-quality drivers and passengers are called out and removed when necessary.

I had a poor experience with Uber recently. I took a long uberX ride (about an hour) from a metropolitan area into the suburbs. In the last couple minutes of the trip, the driver, who was friendly for the majority of the trip, started driving hesitantly. He tried to pull into a nearby driveway, and I told him to continue down the road. He seemed unsure, even though my instructions were the same as the GPS instructions that he had happily been following for the past hour. We got to the last turn. I told him where to turn, and he did, but then stopped. I didn’t know what to do. He said something like “I’m sorry, this is scary” or “I’m sorry, I’m freaked out.” A minute earlier he had made a comment like “There are houses out here?” so I tried to figure out what was going on and thought that maybe he thought I wasn’t serious about the house really being on the road that I was taking him on. I told him that if he just continued to the crest of the hill, about 200-300 feet from where we were stopped, he would see a house. He refused. Not knowing what else to do, I told him to end the trip and I got out of the car. I was about a half mile away from my destination, and I walked the rest of the way, at 1 AM, in 27° F.

That same morning, I replied to my Uber receipt and let them know about what happened. I tried to make light of the situation as much as possible and be as understanding as I could of the driver, and signed the message as an “Unintentionally scary passenger.” I’d used Uber over 40 times before this, and rarely had problems. When I have encountered small issues, such as a duplicate airport fee on my receipt, they have been resolved quickly.

This time, I was not satisfied with the support. Since I wasn’t taken to my destination and was left in a field—that as far as my driver was concerned was unsafe and miles from civilization—I expected an apology and a refund. I was given $5 in credit towards my next trip and a promise that Uber would follow up and check with the driver.

12 hours later, after not hearing from Uber, I sent a quick followup asking them to let me to know when the situation was resolved.

After a couple of days, I got a reply from a different person. This one made me upset, but maybe I’m just misinterpreting the tone. To be fair to Uber, here’s the message with the employee’s name redacted:

Hi Michael,

Thanks so much for reaching out about the trouble with your ride. It appears that both you and the driver were stuck in a very uncomfortable situation. Because the driver accepted to take you to a destination that was out of the way I don’t think a full refund is in order. I am sure had you tried to hail a regular taxi to take you to your remote home, they would not have been as gracious as the Uber.

I cannot answer to the fear the driver experienced. Obviously something in your neighborhood did not seem safe for him. The driver’s safety is also important.

What I can do since it was not your fault the driver was scared, is to offer you a 25% courtesy discount off the trip cost. This lowers it down to $82.45. The difference should post to your account within the next couple of business days.

Thanks and hope your next Uber ride is a much more pleasant experience.

[Name redacted]
Uber Support

I had a few issues with this response, but I’d be interested to hear in the comments if you think that I’m overreacting. I do appreciate that the responses came quickly and were not templated. I’ve seen a wide range of expectations when it comes to customer support, and maybe I’m feeling too entitled in this situation.

The employee said that I shouldn’t get a refund because “the driver accepted to take [me] to a destination that was out of the way” and later referred to the house I was going to as “remote.” The note implied that the discount was a favor, offered as a “courtesy” after Uber was so “gracious” to charge me for an incomplete trip.

That’s the point of my complaint: The driver agreed to take me to a destination, but he didn’t actually take me there. I was left on the side of the road in a field. Discounts are appropriate if there was a delay or a mixup, but when a promised service isn’t delivered, there aren’t generally points for trying. To remove any doubt that Uber and the driver had agreed to take me to my specified “out of the way” and “remote” destination, consider:

  1. I never saw any Uber policy indicating that going outside of the service area would be a problem. My destination was closer than 10 road miles to the edge of the coverage area on Uber’s website. Many tweets from verified Uber accounts indicate that Uber drivers will take passengers anywhere.

  2. Days before the trip, I had requested a fare quote from Uber’s website to determine if Uber would be an option for that night. I entered the same address that I requested the driver to take me to, and received a quote without any messages indicating that there would be an issue with the destination.
  3. When I requested a ride using the Uber app, I entered the destination in the app before the driver arrived, and he used it to request directions with his phone. I didn’t verbally give the address or ask him to go anywhere other than what the app said. The app gave me no error messages or warnings regarding the destination.
  4. When I got in the car, I asked the driver if he was okay with a long ride. He said that he was, and added something along the lines of “That’s what I want,” I assume referring to a long fare. Before we started moving, he asked how long, and I told him it would be about an hour. He agreed to that. According to my receipt, the trip time was 55 minutes.
  5. While we were moving, I believe while we were on the highway, he even said something like “I don’t want to drive in the city,” again I assume because highway driving means more distance (and more money) in a shorter amount of time.

The response implied that with a regular taxi, I would not have been so lucky to be taken partway to my destination. I’m not sure if that’s true. Being used to Bay Area taxi rates, having a much lower success rate of good experiences in taxis, and assuming that if I were to ride with Uber it would be pleasant, I hadn’t even considered a taxi as an option. I had plenty of other options, including a train which would have been much less expensive, but would have required me to bother someone for a ride in the middle of the night at the end. However, now that I look at an online fare estimator, a taxi would only have been about 10% more including the tip, and they would have been required by the PUC to take me to any destination, regardless of distance.

That’s why I’m upset. The initial incident was actually somewhat entertaining (though I hope that the driver soon realized that he was in no danger as I walked off into the night), but the lack of concern on Uber’s part disappointed me.

Most of my experiences with Uber have been great. I’ve also had fine rides with standard taxis, but they have more often annoyed me in some way. I’m happy to see that they’re starting to embrace technology in some areas such as Philadelphia (competition is great!), though it sounds like their solutions still need some work as well. I like other on-demand services such as Lyft and Sidecar, but they have lower availability and I like the standard and tip-free rates with Uber. For prearranged rides, I’ve liked using GroundLink and local services like PlanetTran. Since I really want Uber to improve, here comes the constructive part of my criticism. This is what I believe would have been an appropriate response to my report:

  1. After my first email, send a note saying “Sorry you had a bad experience. We’re going to investigate what happened and get back to you.”
  2. Investigate. Get the driver’s side of the story and make sure that I didn’t do anything threatening or dangerous. Look at my three-year customer history where I’ve happily paid over $1500 in fares. Note that the driver has only been with the service for a week. See that I have never asked for or received a refund before, and that I usually leave high ratings. Run a background check on me if you want. Realize based on the GPS data and my entered destination that I was in fact on my way to a house, and not taking the driver to the middle of the woods or an abandoned warehouse. Look at online imagery and see if anything looks unsafe. Consider that the driver was completely comfortable letting me out of the car in this area, and that I walked out into the field with nothing but my coat and my phone. Ask yourself why would I have gotten out of the car if I was somewhere unsafe.
  3. Follow up with the driver. Giving him the benefit of the doubt and in a show of goodwill, let him keep the fare, but assure him that as far as you could tell, he wasn’t in danger. Make it clear that it is almost never okay to leave a passenger stranded, including in a situation where he wasn’t in enough danger to bother calling the police. Remind him that safety is important, and that if he’s ever in a similar situation, he could do any or all of the following:
    • Let the passenger out, drive to “safety,” and call 911.
    • Contact Driver Operations.
    • Take the passenger to a well-lit and populated area (including a police station) and ask the passenger to exit the car.
  4. Follow up with me when the investigation is complete. Let me know if there’s anything I should clarify with the driver on future pickups, and provide a full refund because the service that I requested and that the driver agreed to was not provided. Maybe even provide me with some additional credit so I am willing to try Uber again.

Going forward, I have a feature request. Many companies use dash cams. Some of them can be pretty advanced—showing both an interior view of the vehicle as well as looking through the windshield, and tracking things like speed, force, and location. Uber could add similar functionality directly to the driver app and utilize the iPhone’s built-in camera(s) and microphone.

Having these recordings might be useful for he said/she said reports of things like unsafe driving, passengers leaving a mess in the car, or for insurance claims in the case of a collision. A rating system is useful in aggregate, but this would help Uber to know what really happened in individual situations. In my particular case, Uber could have evaluated what the driver saw and determined if he had a reasonable cause for concern. Uber could also have heard our conversation and determined if we had mutually agreed on the destination prior to beginning the journey. If both parties consented to the recording (perhaps there could be an off-the-record option with the understanding that a refund may not be possible in the event of a dispute), it could make both drivers and passengers feel safer.

Technology fail

Sometimes a bunch of technology fails at the same time. This usually happens whenever I try to give a demo. Sometimes, it sends me on an adventure.

A few nights ago, I went out to dinner with some friends. At dinner, I looked at my phone and noticed that the battery level was a lot lower than it should have been at that point of the night. I’m not sure how that happened. Maybe it was on in my pocket, or maybe it was something else. Knowing that I’d need my phone to get home, I turned it off.

After I left the group, I turned my phone back on. To get home quickly, I opened Uber. Before I could request a ride, my phone determined that it didn’t have enough juice and turned itself off. No problem—the train station was nearby and the last train hadn’t left yet.

I found a payphone in the station. I of course didn’t have any change, and, not having enough recent experience using payphones to think about using a credit card, I had a flashback to my trip to summer camp when I used a payphone to make a collect call to my parents. So, I followed the instructions on the phone to call collect. As I started going through the process, there was a terrible buzz on the line to the point where I couldn’t understand the prompts. I gave up and headed farther into the station.

I found my platform and spotted another phone. This time, there was no buzz. I followed the instructions, but instead of hearing my parents, I heard an error message followed by a note that I had to wait 15 minutes before calling the same number again. I wondered if my parents thought I was calling from jail. During this attempt, I tried turning my phone back on again, and this time it stayed on. I quickly texted my mom to let her know which train I was getting on and let her know about the battery situation. She told me that she had also heard an error message from the collect call and let me know that my dad would pick me up at the destination station.

Since my phone seemed to be doing well and I had time before the train, I quickly popped outside to give Uber another shot. This time, it worked and an uberX car was soon on its way. I let my parents know and sent them a link to my ride so they would know my ETA. I was relieved, and was happy to be on my way home. The driver was friendly, and we talked on and off most of the way. When we got close to the last road, he started driving very slowly, and said something along the lines of “There are houses out here?”, obviously not used to being so far from the city. I thought he was joking. When we got to the final turn, he stopped the car, and wouldn’t continue. He indicated that he didn’t believe we were heading for a house that couldn’t be seen from the road. Something about the area (or me?) had obviously spooked him, and I guess he thought I was trying to prank him or worse. I tried for about 20 seconds to explain to him that he would see a house if he only continued to the crest of the hill, but he wouldn’t move. Not wanting to spend any more time arguing, and sensitive to the feeling that he really was afraid, I got out of the car and was left in a field in the middle of a night because a driver was scared of my driveway. Achievement unlocked? At least I got my 10,000 steps.

Homejoy

I like having a clean apartment, but I also don’t have a lot of time to clean it. For a while, I’ve been meaning to try Homejoy, and I finally got around to it last week.

Booking

Booking an appointment was easy. It’s cashless, it’s via a website, and I’m good at the Internet. The availability was somewhat limited, and I didn’t want to put it off for too long, so I ended up booking a 7 AM appointment on a weekday. That allowed me to be around to let the cleaner in without disrupting my work schedule while also leaving the apartment and my schedule all to myself during the weekend. Of course, 7 AM is quite a challenge for me, but I tend not to think of that too much when planning something for Future Wysz.

Before the appointment, I removed any clutter so that everything would be where I like it, and the cleaner could spend her time cleaning and not moving stuff around. I also took down and put away my Dropcam. I figured that if I left it out, I’d want to tell the cleaner about it, and I decided that it was just easier to remove it than to have that conversation while still acclimating to consciousness.

The appointment

At 7:03, I got a text from the cleaner, Maria, letting me know that she was going to be about 20 minutes late and asking if I could wait. I guess that 7 AM isn’t just early for me. At 7:20, she arrived. She was very honest about it; she had received a new phone from Homejoy and hadn’t set the alarm on it. I of course didn’t mind at all; I was not in a rush to be anywhere. She was super nice, professional, and ready to go right away, only asking me where to take the trash to. I was glad that she didn’t ask any hard questions, and my only notes to her were a reminder not to wash my cast iron skillet (though she already knew that from a note I left when booking) and that there was bottled water in the refrigerator.*

Since my apartment is a small space, I thought it would be awkward to stick around. My first plan was to sit on the patio area outside of my apartment and work within range of my own WiFi. I abandoned that quickly when I found out that all of the cushions were wet. My next stop was a Starbucks. I would be one of those people who worked from a coffee shop! New experience! When I arrived, there was a long empty table as well as a small two-person table. I initially wanted to go for the small table, but because of the way it was oriented, I would be facing people no matter which side I sat on, and I thought that would be awkward. So, I picked a spot at one end of the long empty table, with a wall on one side of me. I thought I would be safe, but shortly after I settled in, I realized that airport rules apply in coffee shops as well: If you spot Wysz, you must sit unnecessarily close to him no matter how many empty seats are available. Someone sat directly across from me. He started to pull out a laptop or tablet or something (maybe a Surface?) so I realized that his stay wasn’t going to be brief. I looked behind me, and the small table that I had passed on earlier had become occupied. I avoided eye contact and just focused on my laptop screen. I continued to work and enjoy my bagel and coffee. The stranger’s wife arrived later and sat next to him. Fortunately they were both busy reading and didn’t talk much. Unfortunately, he sipped his coffee too loudly for my liking someone else was talking loudly on the phone. I guess I’m not really fit for the coffee crowd. All I kept wondering was “Who are you people and don’t you have anywhere that you need to be?!”

When it was time for a break, I decided to go for a change of scenery and headed to one of the indoor common areas in my apartment complex. As it was a weekday morning, I had the place to myself. It was great.

mountains

lounge

Maria texted me when she was finished, and asked me if I was satisfied with how everything looked. I was happy, and she was on her way. Everything was arranged neatly on my counters, the shower was the cleanest that it’s ever been since I moved in, and a couple of days later I realized that she might have even set my oven clock!

Room for improvement

Before my first appointment, I received an email newsletter from Homejoy. A weekly newsletter. I did not recall signing up for a newsletter. I would not have intentionally signed up for a newsletter, and remember, I’m good at the Internet. This practice really bugs me. I don’t even opt for email receipts at brick-and-mortar retailers anymore because these days a single purchase is taken as permission to “engage” with me forever. It’s disappointing to see a forward-looking startup use such a non-consumer-focused marketing tactic.

I unsubscribed, but that didn’t stop the email annoyances. I rated my cleaner immediately after the appointment, and 10 hours later I got an email asking me to provide feedback by answering two questions. Weird. I thought maybe it was something other than the rating. I clicked on the link and was just taken to a page containing information about my appointment. There were no questions regarding my appointment.

The next day, I got yet another email asking me to leave a Yelp review. This one didn’t even have an unsubscribe option, but I emailed customer service and they said they unsubscribed me. What annoyed me the most about this email was that it asks for a Yelp review of Homejoy, but it’s written in a way that makes you think you’re helping the cleaner. Since cleaners are assigned by Homejoy and not chosen by the customer as far as I can tell, unless the cleaner is doing business outside of Homejoy, mentioning them by name in a Yelp review isn’t going to do much for that individual, and I don’t even know if Maria (whose last name I am intentionally omitting from this review) would want me to identify her online.

Aside from the annoying marketing, the other suggestion I’d like to make to Homejoy is that they move to a tip-free model. To be clear, I do tip when it’s customary, but that doesn’t mean that I like it. I’d rather they just raise the prices and wages appropriately. The site suggested 20% for a good job, so that’s what I did, right when I booked, before I even knew who was going to be doing the work. I’ll explain my position on tipping more in a later post.

I’ll likely use Homejoy again soon, once I decide what recurring appointment time will be best for me.

* It’s totally not relevant to this post, but I feel like I need to point out that I don’t generally buy bottled water. I think it was free from a hotel.

Healthcare transparency

I feel uninformed and helpless when it comes to medical services. I guess I feel the same way about other things too, like getting work done on my car, but in that case I’m usually just risking paying too much money. I don’t mean to say that I think I’ve ever been taken advantage of from a mechanic or anyone else, but I don’t like not knowing.

I first started to feel uncomfortable about the way medical services are set up when I would go to the optometrist. Even though everyone was very nice and I didn’t doubt their medical competency, it also felt like I was getting a lot of sales pitches. Get a picture taken of your eyes for only $25! Get all sorts of fancy coatings on your lenses! Special glasses for computers! It’s a store. The same place, and often the same person, that examines the health of my eyes and provides medical advice also sells products to solve vision issues. It makes me really uncomfortable, and it’s one of those things that feels like it should be illegal. I would prefer to be evaluated by someone who gets paid the same amount for their medical opinion, regardless of whether their advice is to buy something or not.

There’s an interesting TED talk by Leana Wen (with a sensational title that I think is unfair to apply to all doctors) which talks about the idea of doctors being voluntarily more transparent about what their biases and conflicts of interest might be.

The end goal for me is to get the best advice, and I think that transparency is one tool that could help us to get there even before it’s illegal for my eye doctor to profit from selling me glasses instead of referring me to a laser eye surgeon or Warby Parker.

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